These statements/ questions above are usually used to express people's disbelief when couples broke up. As a matter of fact, most couples that broke up usually were in a long distance relationship. And so instead of focusing on the topic, breakups, I'd be talking bout long distance relationships..
LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP: DOOMED. Kidding! trololololol. xDD Um, okay I'll be more serious now. >,< LDR is a relationship held between two people who are separated by distance. Meaning, having no chance to see each other as often compared to the normal-dating-couples. Aww. . . That's such a bummer right?? :C
BUT!
Know that these two souls will try to work out their relationship and beat the long distance. But how?? :O -TRUST. D'uh~ Well, judging by the conditions that the two individuals are facing, there's nothing much they can do except for having faith in each other. I'd have to say that usually it'll be no problem for the girls to be faithful. It's usually the guys that I'm concerned with. Coz sometimes guys are easily blown away by what's in front of their eyes, "yalah, pantang nampak perempuan lain" as what people say. And as for the girls nowadays, I've no idea where they got the GEDIK or should I say FLIRTY traits from. So yeah, most of the time it's because there's a presence of a third person.
But let's not pinpoint to only the guys and other girls shall we? Sometimes it could also be because of the jealousy and suspicion girls have towards their boyfriends. It's actually totally normal for the female kind to have this intuition or rather, instincts if their boyfriends are cheating on them FACT #1 lol. But yeah, too much jealousy and suspicion could ruin the smoothness of their relationship along the way. Which is NOT GOOD.
So really, to those who are in a LDR, you guys really have to find a way on how to make things work. I mean, c'mon guys and/or girls, LDR isn't such a bad idea, I mean, people who are skeptical of it, are usually those who think that "owhh~ I knew this won't work in the first place". . And they are just plain cowards. Look on the bright side, you'll get to avoid being bored from each others' presence and focus more on your life goals which includes to have a successful relationship by the end of the day. My dad said the guys who couldn't bear the long distance are the ones who wants to get all "physical". I've no idea how true is that. But he was like "Baba taw lah coz baba laki22". . . And I was like "owwkiee~~ Mr Laki22. Whatever you say~" and put my clown face on. I laughed till my throat went dry. HAHA. It's such a weird/ rare/ unexpected thing to go bro talk with your dad about well, urm.. GUYS (?) >,O
Some tips for the guys:
1. Don't betray a girl's trust. Really, it's not cool. REALLY. =.=
2. Have more empathy. Everytime you wanna do something, try to put yourself in her shoes and think "What would she feel if I do this?" or even better, "How would I feel if she does this?"
3. Be honest in all things. No need to be afraid to tell the truth even if it hurts. Coz a girl can never be mad for long. And know that the Venutians are really soft-hearted and are always ready to forgive. it's TRUE! FACT #2 :O
4. Everyone deserves a 2nd chance. But do you really wanna risk it just so that you can take advantage of the girl who cares for you. Or perhaps you wanna "test" her whether she can handle the situation when there's a 3rd person or not?? That's a big NO.
5. Be more expressive and appreciative towards your girlfriend once in a while. LDR is already hard, but a little display of concern and romance might bloom your relationship back. You don't need to be all mushy and lovey dovey. Just be yourself and do the little things that she likes. Even making her laugh could sometimes be enough to make a girl feel much appreciated.
6. You'll know whether the girl is sincere or not by looking at how she treats you, and at the same time has the effort to keep the relationship going. Not all girls have the guts to be away from their loved ones. -Only the STRONG ones. So don't blow this one up guys and toughen up yourselves okayy? coz it'd be a shame if you're the one who's giving up first. . . !:0 And yes, this is a challenge for all of you boys out there who's in a LDR. :@
Some tips for the girls:
1. It's sometimes good to be jealous but not TOO JEALOUS. No one likes people who are overly jealous. That's just plain annoying. It's probably best to know his friends, the girls and the guys, rather than being too suspicious of your own boyfriend.
2. Don't be a queen control. Dudette, you're only his girlfriend, not his wife or anything. You gotta understand the space a guy needs. Don't be SOoooOOoo POSSESSIVE. No one likes to be kept in a cage. I mean, it's totally okay for you guys to keep track of each others' lives. But there's a difference in SUPPORTING your partner, and CONTROLLING your partner.
3. Don't be too NAIVE. It's probably a good thing to be innocent. But you don't wanna get yourself deceived by the Martians. This is just a precaution. I'm not saying this coz I'm biased to the girls' point of view. Pfthh~ That's totally sexist. =o= But this is basically based on personal experience and observations done on other couples. Girls tend to get cheated easily by the guys FACT #3. >,<
4. Have faith in your partners. I know at times it's hard when guys sometimes don't really get what you want. But you have to understand what the guys need first in order to get what you want. Don't be over sensitive over small things like he didn't text you or whatsoever. Think positive, maybe he's busy etc. Give them time to miss you I guess.
5. Don't be obsessed with your boyfriend. Please oh please oh please I beg ya. . . ~,~ You'll look like an idiot psycho who thinks she's the only one who has a boyfriend in this universe, and yet you talk about him almost everytime in your Facebook/ Twitter/ Blog etc22. Have you ever heard the word diary? Yeah, talk to your little own private world so that no one can read your babblings bout your personal relationship online coz you know what? NO ONE CARES whether he has taken you to the movies or bought you this and that BLAH BLAH BLAH. And same goes at the end of the day when things didn't turn out the way you wanted, no one wants to read your emo posts about your ex, breakup and yatta22 just as they don't want to read about your new boyfriend and whatsoever. =O= So buy yourself a diary and blab to only yourself. Uwh, and don't forget to buy yourself a straw coz you suck for being so cheap and have some PRIDE you woman!
6. Same with what I've been emphasizing to the guys, please girls, don't flirt with other guys. As much as we don't like to be cheated on, the guys don't like it too. No one likes it obviously.
TIPS FOR BOTH SIDES:
1. Set a goal or aim for yourselves and both of you guys. For instance, you wanna be this and that, your partner wants to be this and that. . . Then, how about combining both of you guys' future and insert a bit of something realistic for you guys to work on which is maybe. . . oh man, dare I say this word; >,O marriage perhaps? It doesn't have to always be too serious when you talk about this. And you don't need to voice it out loud so long as both of you know where you guys are heading. Coz only by having that idea in mind, you would know how serious you are in that particular relationship.
2. People didn't invent Skype for nothing. Being the youth generation of today has made us lucky enough to have the technology to overcome distances. Imagine our moms and dads back in the old days who were maybe in a long distance relationship. They had to write letters to each other, not being able to see one another's faces for days, months, and years. So be grateful that you still get to see each other despite the miles that are separating the both of you apart.
3. Have the effort to get to know each other more within the period of you guys being away from each other. You might have ups and downs along the way, but try to have the realization of how important tolerance is in a relationship during the process.
4. Be optimistic. And optimism here doesn't mean daydreaming that you guys would end up having a family together. It's more to the actions that you put in towards achieving the goal you've set for the both of you.
5. Always pray to God that your relationship lasts and let the Man above guide you both to the right path. Love your partner because of the God who grants you love. Therefore, love your partner like you love yourself and for that, treat him or her right. May God bless the both of you.
So that's all peeps.
Gossip gugurl signing out~ xoxo.
LOL! xDD
I mean, that's all folks~! Hope it gives you a clearer picture of how things work in a long distance relationship. And for those of you who are in one, GOOD LUCK! ;)
Here's a lil song for you guys. xDD
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